Me Speaking

This post follows in the wake of the previous post --- its prior lessons leading me to an epiphany of hope for recovery from my addiction to compulsive overeating. The lesson emerges from the same Source. If the power of my Higher Power can, which He can and does, procure for me release from edging, then He can and will also release from me an urge to eat compulsively.  Me at ten years old at my Grandmother's house in San Francisco A reflection on the matter. I had my food addiction when at five years old, eight years before puberty, at which time I began to seriously edge and masturbate. Here's an example of the over-eating severity. Picture it. I'm a ten year old  kid in Los Angeles County about to go on a three week summer vacation at my grandmother's house. Prior to the eight hour bus ride to San Francisco, I buy twelve candy bars. I tell myself these are enough to last the entire Greyhound Bus ride. But before the bus even leaves L.A. County, within an hour I have...

The Sex and Porn Addicts Anonymous (SPAA) definition of acting out is: viewing pornography, masturbating, and having sex outside of a committed relationship.  The major culprit that entices to acting out? Edging! (SPAA's Edging Definition)   What's related to edging? Mindless scrolling. (I just got done doing an hour of it.) It's family to edging. It's why I've started counting my scroll free days. (0 days now) News stories, movie scenes, Ted talks etc....you, glad to have reader, if you're like me, know what happens when you go online and start scrolling without purpose. I go on and on and on in a type of rapture. Time vanishes. The mini-skirted girls appear walking in Manchester and I oh "so accidently" start watching the Bangkok street girls parading at night, at times for hours. My brain and body get injected with the dopamine that never supplies me with enough. All the while, being online itself pumps dopamine into my system. That's why I de...

It's 3 a.m. at the railroad tracks in Palo Alto, California. I'm a security guard responsible for insuring no one stands on the tracks to commit suicide. (the wave of suicides of Dunn High School students) An African American homeless woman walks on the sidewalk where I sit, and we start to talk. Suddenly, she said "You are so full of shame." Never have forgotten that night. How could she tell? How could she know what even I didn't know? How could my denied sense of shame be so blatant that she could feel it herself?  As I write, like a flood, personal memories encompass me of shameful acts which thanks be to God did not then nor do they now define who I am. Thanks be to God for the SPAA (Sex and Porn Addicts Anonymous) member who reminded me of that during one of our ZOOM meetings. What I am is ...  a child of God.  For me, shame is mostly about sexual shame. That pernicious influence upon me, like ink spilled onto white paper, is that sex is sinful, even my p...

The Promises , as referred to in the AA book, in my experience, have never been broken promises.  However, patience, while working the Twelve Steps , was essential to obtain the promises. They didn't  come true overnight. But after more than a year in the AA program, some promises did come true in the form of a pink cloud---a splendid beauty of a recognition of God's love accessed through the step work itself.  What a price I paid in struggle to be entirely honest about my character defects---my false ego fighting to maintain its sway. Simple but not easy? An apt AA saying aptly put. That first pink cloud passed, as all clouds do, yet it put an indelible impression upon me. Where there was despair hope had blossomed forth in a tulip called a Faith that Works---a believing that stilled the agitations of doubt. Misgivings disappeared to be supplanted by confidence in my Higher Power, Jesus Christ.                      ...

I felt this Step was gonna be a hop skip and a jump Step, a little Step, a relatively unimportant Step in the greater scheme of recovery. Feeling wise.  I've found each Step of the Twelve Steps fitted neatly one atop the prior in the right place at the right time for me the addict person working those Steps in order to recover---each served as preparation for the next.  Step Six: "Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character." I will write about the way taking Step Six best ought to be taken and the way I did it in actuality.  The former fist: Entirely , that's the main word, the hinge word. All the way ready, completely ready, no holds barred ready and ready in the entirety of readiness.  Conceptualize getting ready for a formal dinner; You're the man getting ready to go on a dinner date during which you plan to ask her the woman you love to marry you. You shave the entirety of the scrub off your face, you trim your nails, you shower for...

The font of this post emerges from my readings of the book "Constantine's Sword, The Church and the Jews, A History." by James Carroll.  As such, Christians and Jews, I judge them as I do myself, who being both Christian by selection and Jew by blood, claim entitlement to do so. To a higher standard towards those Chosen, as opposed to the lesser standard I use to judge the heathen. These pagans sin unwittingly as by their un-born again nature they miss the mark by the spiritually blind and deaf being of nature itself.  But as the religious Jew lives and breathes by adherence to the Law, and lives by its Talmudic interpretations, yet confused, yet transgressing that same, to him, to myself, I judge condemned to helpless need of a Messiah. As the Christian Churches claims salvation through this same Messiah, yet still occurred millennia of pograms up until occurred the Nazi Holocaust besmirches the gospel books themselves. The Jews killed Jesus, are Gentiles not inculcated...

Written in my emergency write out journal some four hours ago. I accept I am single and I accept that my single status is only going to change by a miracle. Even though I do believe in miracles, as my recovering from my assortment of addictions so attests, miracles are extremely rare. I am 99 and 9/10 percent likely to remain single for the remainder of my life. I accept these odds as part of the way life is for me and thus decide not to give a hoot about it. As I am a believer in Christ Jesus, I will carry this most heavy cross as did He carry His.   I also know I will choose to continue to torment myself about sex, love and marriage, etc, and my single status. I know I will never have peace about it as well. I accept this self tortured me that I am as well.  As a result, I now choose to cease any and all further searching to find a woman with whom to have a committed romantic relationship.  Postscript: After having written the above, the accepting , I find a pea...